Author – Cierra Garrow (She/Her) is a Registered Psychotherapist and Registered Marriage and Family Therapist with many years of clinical and teaching experience. Cierra incorporates the outdoors, land-based interventions, cooking interventions, equine-assisted psychotherapy, and creative approaches that meet clients where they are in their journey. She is also the Owner and Clinical Director of Cambrian Counselling and Wellness.
Strengthen Your Marriage: Must-Read Books for Couples
Relationships are hard work. The good news? There are incredible resources out there that can help. Here’s a list of must-read books that will transform your relationship/marriage and deepen your connection.
Hold Me Tight: Seven Conversations for a Lifetime of Love by Sue Johnson
This is a game-changer. Dr. Sue Johnson, a pioneer in attachment science, lays out seven pivotal conversations to enhance emotional intimacy. Johnson’s approach is backed by decades of research. Couples rave about its practical guidance.
The Hold Me Tight Workbook: A Couple’s Guide for a Lifetime of Love by Sue Johnson
Think of this as your hands-on companion to “Hold Me Tight.” It breaks down Johnson’s principles into actionable steps. Each chapter includes exercises to practice with your partner, making it a practical tool for couples committed to growth.
Created for Connection: The “Hold Me Tight” Guide for Christian Couples by Kenneth Sanderfer and Dr. Sue Johnson
Faith plays a crucial role for many couples. This book integrates the principles of “Hold Me Tight” with Christian values. It’s tailored for those who want to strengthen their bond through both psychological insights and spiritual beliefs.
Love Sense: The Revolutionary New Science of Romantic Relationships by Sue Johnson
Dive deep into the science of love with this one. Johnson explains the biological and psychological reasons behind our need for connection. Understanding the science can provide clarity and compassion in your relationship.
Eight Dates: Essential Conversations for a Lifetime of Love by John Gottman and Julie Schwartz Gottman
John and Julie Gottman are legends in relationship research. This book is packed with eight crucial conversations every couple should have. Each date is designed to tackle significant areas of your relationship, from trust to intimacy.
Fight Right: How Successful Couples Turn Conflict Into Connection by Julie Schwartz Gottman and John Gottman
Conflict is inevitable, but it doesn’t have to drive you apart. This book teaches couples how to navigate disagreements constructively. The Gottmans’ methods are research-backed and effective in turning conflict into an opportunity for connection.
5 Love Languages – Updated, The Secret to Love that Lasts
This classic book introduces the concept of love languages and explains how understanding and speaking your partner’s love language can significantly improve your relationship. It’s an easy read with practical applications.
Esther Perel explores the complexities of sustaining desire and intimacy in long-term relationships. Her insights challenge conventional wisdom and provide a fresh perspective on maintaining passion in committed partnerships.
Come As You Are: Revised and Updated: The Surprising New Science That Will Transform Your Sex Life
Emily Nagoski’s book is a groundbreaking look at the science of sexual desire and satisfaction. It’s insightful, compassionate, and practical, offering couples a deeper understanding of their sexual relationship and how to nurture it.
Come Together: The Science (and Art!) of Creating Lasting Sexual Connections by Emily Nagoski
I had the privilege of meeting and seeing Emily Nagoski present her new book Come Together: The Science (and Art!) of Creating Lasting Sexual Connections at the Emotionally Focused Therapy Worlds Conference in the Netherlands this past May. I cannot recommend her content enough! If you want amazing sex in long-term relationships this is your go-to book! This book dives into both the science and the artistry of building sexual connections. Nagoski offers an in-depth exploration of the factors that contribute to a satisfying and lasting sexual relationship, providing both scientific insights and practical tips.
Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment and How It Can Help You Find—and Keep—Love by Amir Levine and Rachel Heller
This book delves into the science of attachment theory and explains how understanding your attachment style can improve your relationship. It’s a must-read for anyone interested in how early life experiences influence adult relationships.
Polysecure: Attachment, Trauma and Consensual Nonmonogamy
Jessica Fern’s book is a must-read for polyamorous couples. It explores how attachment theory can be applied to consensual nonmonogamous relationships, providing insights into managing jealousy, building trust, and maintaining emotional security.
The Polysecure Workbook: Healing Your Attachment and Creating Security in Loving Relationships
This workbook is a practical companion to “Polysecure,” offering exercises and activities to help polyamorous individuals and partners heal attachment wounds and build secure, resilient relationships. It’s a valuable resource for those looking to deepen their understanding and practice of consensual nonmonogamy.
Books are Great… but I Need More Support
These books are more than just words on a page. They’re tools, crafted by experts, to help you build a stronger, healthier relationship. Whether you’re facing challenges or just want to deepen your connection, these reads are invaluable. Dive in and start transforming your marriage today. At Cambrian Counselling and Wellness, we understand the complexities of relationships and are here to support you. Our team of experienced therapists specializes in relationship-based therapy, offering personalized guidance to help you navigate challenges and build a lasting connection.
For those in polyamorous relationships, we offer specialized support tailored to your unique dynamics. We help you navigate communication, manage jealousy, and build strong, secure connections with all your partners. Book a session with our poly-informed couples therapist Faye Moreau today to strengthen your polyamorous relationships and ensure everyone’s emotional needs are met. Book a free 20-minute consultation with Faye HERE.
If you’re ready to invest in your relationship and discover new ways to connect, book a session with us today HERE.
Let’s work together to create the fulfilling relationship you deserve.